Foundations of Kundalini Yoga | Conscious Partnership

The Foundational Principle for the fourth month is Conscious Partnership

The heart’s medicine is love. 

The potential of love gets activated by ‘the other’ which is the positive yummy aspect of the medicine.

The negative and bitter part of the medicine is when the other starts to reflect all the places where we each carry our wounding. This always happens, this is the way of the heart’s medicine.

What holds a relationship through this sacred and painful process of transformation is love. Love is created from this dance between the two: one as lover, the other as beloved.

The lover and beloved create a tantric weave and this weave of love is what holds the relationship unto Infinity. 

Tantra is a Sanskrit word that means “woven together.” The practice of tantric union, of conscious partnership is a way we “weave together” to experience profound physical and spiritual intimacy.

Each holds true to their innate nature, to how they’ll show up to administer the medicine.

You are one or the other, just like there is one sun and one moon and they don’t change roles.

This tantric weaving created from the interactions of lover and beloved creates a sacred space between, where we show up not as a magnifying glass but as a neutral mirror for each other.

Tantric practices, see video for more details:

• Sit back to back touching spines together and chant the ‘Sa Ta Na Ma’ mantra together moving the fingers with the mantra.
• Practice Imago dialogue daily. (See below)
• Create a relationship vision together, place it on the altar and read it to each other weekly.
• Each person has a daily sadhana practice based on their numerology.
• Practice circular Tantric breathing together.
• Ong Sohung Bowing: Sit on heels next to each other, if you identify male chant ‘Ong’ and bow forehead to the ground then rise as the one who identifies female chants ‘Sohung’ and bows down. Continue chanting and bowing alternately.

This work is powerful, deeply transformational and it will be disruptive! We are here to support you from having lived and learned this tantric weaving process over the last 45 years together.

You can schedule a consultation session with Dr Guruchander here or Kirn here

Imago Dialogue Outline

Getting Started:  In the Imago Dialogue both parties agree to a basic ground rule: to talk one person at-a-time.  This gives you a person who is speaking, we say “sending”, and another who is listening, or “receiving”.  It is when you are in the role of the Receiver that you will be doing the three main steps of Dialogue.

There are 3 steps to the Imago Dialogue:

• Mirroring
  • Validation
  • Empathy

STEP ONE: MIRROR

In the Mirroring step, when your partner pauses, or perhaps when you have asked them to pause, you will repeat back everything you heard them say.  You may paraphrase, but you will mirror without analyzing, critiquing, modifying or responding.  

How to Mirror:  “If I got it, I think you said…”  or “So you’re saying…”  
Ask if there’s more:  “Is there more?”  or “Tell me more.”

STEP TWO: VALIDATE

Once the Sender says there is “no more”, the Receiver will attempt to validate what the Sender has said by letting the Sender if what they have been saying is making logical sense to the Receiver.  If it does not, the Receiver will simply share what does make sense, then ask the Sender to say more about the parts that do not yet make sense.

How to Validate:  “You make sense to me because…”  or
“That makes sense, I can see where…”

Ask for clarification:  “This part (X) makes sense, but help me understand, can you say more about…?”

STEP THREE: EMPATHIZE

In the final step, Empathy, the Receiver takes a guess as to what they imagine the Sender might be feeling with regard to what they have been saying.  If the Sender has already said how they feel, then the Receiver can simply reflect this back once more.  If, however, the Receiver can think of an additional way their partner might be feeling, this is where they can add that.

When sending empathy, it is fine to say something such as:  “I can imagine you feel like …. (you’re the only one working on our relationship).”  However, it’s important to know that once the word “like” comes into play, what’s being expressed is is a thought, not a feeling.  The best way we have come to distinguish the difference between a thought and a feeling, is that a feeling can generally be described in one or two words:  e.g., happy, excited, safe, cared for, hurt, frustrated, scared.

Try to include some “feeling” words if you can, in this step.  Doing so, especially when you are lucky enough to hit the proverbial nail on the head, will often bring a look of recognition and joy to your partner’s face faster than anything else you could say. 

How to Empathize:  “I can imagine you might be feeling…”
Check it Out:  “Is that how you feel?”                                  

Now that the Sender has said all they have to say and the Receiver has mirrored, validated and empathized, the whole process reverses.  The Receiver now gets their turn to respond with whatever came up for them while the first partner was sending and the Sender shifts into being the new Receiver who does the mirroring.

Note:  When partners trade places, the new Sender does not start a new topic, rather she/he responds to what the first Sender said.